Why is it that a brahmin male will have sex with an adi woman but not marry her? Male instincts ensure that men are attracted to women irrespective of caste and color – a hint of a breast, an exposed waist, a heaving cleavage – this is adequate to get the testosterone loaded enough to want a sexual encounter. However, the brahmin male has his mum and dad, siblings, society and peer group, to ensure that at least visibly and socially, he conforms. To conform is important to the brahmin male because that is where he derives his sense of superiority from. The brahmin male has no identity or self esteem beyond his caste. It gives him much sought after power and status. Within this closely knit brahmin community, he further redefines his status through his educational and economic mobility.
The brahmin male cannot place a value on beauty because he realizes that there are women much more beautiful than the brahmin woman. The woman with fire in her eyes, with a clean olive complexion, the dusky beauty, the one with the warmth and love and genuine desire for him – this cannot be the brahmin woman, precisely because she is not the brahmin woman.
The brahmin male knows when to throw the gender arrow and when the caste arrow. When confronted with an adi woman who is a threat to him because she is smart and educated or empowered, he cannot openly condemn her for her caste background. He will therefore, at his convenience, bring in the gender dimension, where he questions her capability based on standard gender prejudices – her competency, the quality of her work, her rationality, her skills, her limitations because of her background and upbringing, her inability to give quality time to her work because of her family commitments and social limitations, his understanding of her weakness and therefore his acceptance of his role as her superior, if only to guide and support.
When she questions him, he never fails to remind her of these petty ploys which he uses to build himself up as her technical superior.
The brahmin female – a vapid semi existent marriage worthy commodity
The brahmin female derives her identity from the brahmin male. Her sense of worth is largely defined by the brahmin male. With him she is able to become the vanguard of education, philosophy and culture in India. She supplements and complements the brahmin male – whether it be through dance or art or food or culture.
Her role is unique in that she will go out of her way to question male domination, aping her western counterparts, but not in a way that would threaten her brahmin existence. So a subjugation of her by the brahmin male is acceptable and propagated only as long as it is within the boundary of establishing the brahmin as an unique and superior identity.
When a brahmin woman relates with a non brahmin woman, she greedily laps up all aspects of the woman woman relationship that does not threaten or question her brahmin identity. The brahmin woman is even happy to underplay her brahmin identity to gain from her ‘girl relationships’. It give her a sense of connectedness with the western world where she feels she has sufficiently imbibed and benefited from the western notion of female emancipation and empowerment.
The brahmin woman understands the intrinsic gender inequality within the system and will question it, so long as it doesn’t include her losing her brahmin status. She WILL marry a brahmin. Her life is dichotomous. In public, she will rant about the injustices experienced by women, going to far as to classify these women as dalit, muslim or economically deprived. She will question the non brahmin male for drinking, violence, sexual abuse and for not being a social and economic support.
However she is silent when it comes to the brahmin male. She will not question him for his brahminness but rather for his male practices. She will ask why a brahmin woman is not allowed to do what a brahmin man can do , but she will never question why a non brahmin male, or even worse, a non brahmin woman cannot do what the brahmin male does.
The adi woman is the most extraordinary and beautiful object in India. She gives India the beauty and graciousness and wisdom that no savarna male can give. A savarna male can NEVER be what an adi woman is – this is why he does EVERYTHING he can to suppress her. He does it in the most debased and inhuman ways – by physically beating her, by verbally abusing her, by sexually violating her and by removing every right to a dignified existence. He prevents her from having toilets, he prevents her from having a respectable livelihood, from having access to water, from having nutrition, from having health, from educating herself and her children and from speaking.
According to the savarna the adi woman should be affordable, available, adjustable, amenable and accessible (Quote from the book ‘Dalit women speak’). He beats her with rods, on her head, on her back, her groin, her breasts and on her face. He abuses her with the most filthy language that no decent man would use against ANYONE, leave alone a woman. He sexually violates her by raping,, stripping and parading her naked.
And YET this woman, she smiles. She holds the power of humanity in her hands. Why are adi women SO beautiful? Why does their skin glow so, why do they laugh, why do their eyes twinkle? Where does this spirit come from? It comes from inner strength. An adi woman knows more about equality and rights than a US born and educated brahmin would ever know. This is why the savarna man hates adi women. Because he knows that he can NEVER be as GOOD, as KIND, as FORGIVING, as BEAUTIFUL, as PATIENT as her. He sees his own worthlessness when he sees her. All he can do is go in gangs and try to break her spirit. He uses words to insult her but all he does is show his own true colors.
A real man would never treat a woman the way a savarna man treats an adi woman. This is the truth that they just cannot bear to live with. But that’s the problem with truth – it’s the TRUTH.
When the adi woman is empowered, when she sits in a position of power, when she is nurtured, when she and her sisterfolk – the other adi women become the majority in leading this country, surely this country will thrive. Surely this country will be governed with wisdom and kindness. When the brahmims are prevented from scheming and plotting about how to better themselves at the cost of everyone else in the country then surely India will be a force to reckon with. Till then we can live with the crap…….. and adi people are no longer available to clean up the crap the brahmins are giving to the country.